The Brides Blog – Shilpa Narayan
Maya Angelou once said, “In all the world, there is no heart for me like yours. In all the world, there is no love for you like mine.”
I, Shilpa Narayan, gave unto this to a lad named Kunal Pawar way ago in the serene seascape land called GOA. Unimaginable and unpredictable, the best of cronies as we were – this friendship eventually gave way to love. And as we parted ways in distance, while our careers were calling, it was time to drop the anchor.
Kunal hails from the Warrior clan, while I, from the Priestlies. Whilst our societal norms “traditionally” would consider this betrothal a TABOO, our dearest folks were beyond these norms and all for love and perennial happiness. And within no time, after the several rendezvous, the dates were set and it was all upon us.
I am diseased with Monica Geller’s syndrome of OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) – heights of organizing things to the T. And hey! Wedding of a lifetime – no time – and heaps to do! All I needed was my Excel spreadsheets, some Green Tea to-go on the side, a laptop and a phone. With a stringent budget to follow and opting to go without a Wedding Planner – I had to play it all!
Call it BRIDEZILLA SEASON! Errands started getting ticked off the list while Kunal and I started ticking off each other – we cannot live without that, you see. This is the consequence of a Crab-Ram unison (ref. Cancer and Aries respectively).
The not-so-BIG not-so-FAT Indian Wedding took inspiration from Alia Bhatt and Arjun Kapoor – YES – we decided to make it a 2 State affair. Kunal comes from Pune, and thus the Main Wedding was set to occur 17th April 2016 at Mahalaxmi Lawns, Pune. IT HAPPENS TO BE MY BIRTHDAY – By The Way. Was I to be delighted with the confluence or was I to be overshadowed against individuality in honor of this sanctimonious ceremony? Truthfully, it was a down-the-gut feel of both.
“Doli leke” a wagon of my family (which was the first travel of its kind) all set depart to Pune. As I was joined there by my best friends, all of us jollied through the pre-wedding rituals, ceremonies and the Mehendi of course! The D Day got rolling with an early morning Haldi followed by the Pheras and the crucial ritual. I was adorned in a Regal Red Kanchipuram Saree and my Maratha in his Grand Groom look – the wedding followed Maharashtrian protocols. Did I catch the folks shed tears? YES. Did Kunal’s eyes get misty behind those frames? MAYBE. But I was surprised with myself as I shone through delight and not have myself teary-eyed. And there we were- MAN AND WIFE. “You may kiss the bride now” – Oops …. Wishful thinking!
It is not over yet!
Draw a route map from Pune to the hustle bustle of my hometown Bangalore. Emerging land of startups and microbreweries – 24th April 2016 was the second date set for the Grand Reception. Traditionally, receptions at Bangalore are hosted at Palace Lawns – open air, stage, caterers, centrepiece of vegetable carving. Sorry folks – NOT HAPPENING! After a persistent and compelling search for THE PERFECT VENUE, maintained within the budget – we landed (and thank God for that!) Bangalore Brew Works. Yes, you heard it right – BREWERY it is!
Beyond the wildest of anybody’s expectations, an Iyengari Bride’s wedding reception at a Microbrewery? OMG! It was purely avant-garde!
Kunal all smart, handsome and suited up in his Satya Paul – CHECK!
Me in my gorgeous blue trousseau and Swarovskis – CHECK!
Our Best Friends looking rad, all excited for the evening – CHECK!
Folks looking fab and hurrying us to rush to the venue – CHECK!
We reached our final destination dot 7:00 PM. And when I arrived – gosh – I could swoon as my dream came true. Words were not sufficient to describe how beautiful the venue looked. As the bride and groom stood at their altar, the evening went by with unending smiles, soothing music to tap by, family, friends and the fresh aromatic brew from Bangalore Brew Works.
The Photographers .Co were fluttering all around with their SNAP devices and equipment. The team ensured they captured it all, and captured it absolutely candid!
As Kunal and my spirits lifted even more through this event – we seemed to fall in love with each other over again. It was a wedding of two Hiltons – Hilton Chennai & Hilton Bangalore as our colleagues gathered at the venue, all the way from Chennai as well as Bangalore.
As the ethereal evening drifted slowly to the night, music was elevated – and we found ourselves having our FIRST DANCE! Kunal having two left feet, I had fun leading him. The DJ spinning tunes such as Lean On, Bravo’s Champion, Kar Gayi Chull and what not – young or old – all had their Dancing Shoes on!
And the burst of energy had to snail down eventually as all guests blessed the couple and family with their best and departed. And to say it all, Kunal and I were fatigued, but it was a fatigue filled with elation also!
As I am writing this, almost two weeks since the Reception – everyone that witnessed are yet gushing about it – “It was one of a kind” “One of the best I have ever seen” “All of us had so much fun!” “It was an excellently crafted event” “I will never forget this” – and YES! MISSION ACCOMPLISHED! We hosted a Wedding that was UNFORGETTABLE.
April went by in a flash and it was all over …. Kunal and I are married now – bound forever by faith, by religion, by families and in the eyes of law. It went by as good as I had dreamt it to be, though not perfect – but I am happy. And it made me realize – it will not always go exactly the way you want it, but in the end, it will anyways be what you wanted. A huge shout out of THANKS to everyone who made this vivid dream come true!
And I also take this writing an opportunity to shout out on digital space to Kunal Pawar, who is also an avid Wildlife Photographer:
I look forward to CAPTURING all moments of our lives together, penning it down … Going a few years down the lane, and looking back at it with the same love. And I still want to live a single life with you. For our couple life, is the equivalent of our single lives then, but together.
This is the Bride writing her VERY OWN FIRST BLOG, and signing off …
Until later ….